It isn’t uncommon for one party to be inclined to go for help and the other to resist. The reason for this is a simple one. There is a deep concern inside some people, to keep their private life private. This can pose a problem when trouble in your “private” relationship might need some outside intervention.
If you think that you don’t need any help and you can take care of any problems between yourselves, then you might want to ask yourself why you clicked on this article. It is because you need help with your situation and you are seeking help.
It doesn’t mean weakness if you decide to go to a couples counselor. Rather, it should make you feel stronger, since you have the guts to face the issues head on and go through some possibly difficult sessions in order to make things better in your lives. Every one in this life has these painful times.
I have about four hundred friends and relatives and a close church family, and I truly don’t know one single couple who hasn’t struggled in some way with some thing. Don’t think for a minute that just because someone is walking with Jesus that they don’t have the same troubles as everyone else.
If it seems like they have it all together, it is more likely that they don’t. They simply have the faith that their God will see them through the valleys and bring them to the mountaintop where they will see clearly again. Don’t wait if your friendship is in trouble, get some counseling.
My feeling is that a person who believes in the Bible will be a great help in your relationship since there is a greater understanding in them about God’s word on relationships staying in tact and not divorcing or dividing. If they are following the word of God, they will be inclined to work with you to the enth degree to bring beauty from the ashes.
If you are not a Christian person, then you will still benefit from a church counselor. If you feel compelled to resist that type of couples counseling; then you might want to ask yourself why. If you come up with no truly good reason, then go. But in an effort to do something, please, take the advice of someone who knows, and go to someone, the phone book is full of good counselors who are qualified to help you and your mate. Pick up the telephone today and get started on the road to reconciliation, you will be glad you did.
